going out with ex-gf son

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Registered: 02-26-2005
going out with ex-gf son
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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 11:44pm

My bf ex-gf have a son who grew up with him for 8 years when they still together long time ago. Now they are already 4 yrs separated and the boy is somehow fully grown up 16yr old boy .

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 1:54am

Marielle, first up, it's not your place to 'allow' him to do something. Sure, he may ask your opinion, but whether or not he does something should be purely his decision. If he needs your 'permission' to do something that is a red flag in itself.

That aside, I'm finding your post very confusing. I need to ask a few questions to try and get a better grasp.

What type of relationship does your boyfriend and this 16yo lad have? Is it a big brother/mentor type relationship or do they consider each other equal mates?

What does your relationship with the 12yo sibling entail? (I don't understand what 'sched.' means) And how would it effect the relationship between your boyfriend and the 16yo?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 1:36pm

Welcome to the board marielle2005,


He's had a relationship with this boy, now 16 yr old for 8 years. I'm sure they have bonded. If they want to see each other, they can. It's not about you giving permission.