boyfriend 'married to sister

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Registered: 11-21-2008
boyfriend 'married to sister
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 10:51am
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:08am

I try to get to the bottom line of every post because more often than not, "why does he do this?" matters very little compared to "why do you stay?"

You've expressed your desire for this situation to change and it hasn't changed at all. Your choice now is whether to live with it and accept the role you have in his life, even if it is not as important as his sister's role, or leave and find a man whose life fits you better.

I also wonder why after six years at age 38 you are not married - not saying it's wrong, just something that makes me curious. Any insight on this?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:12am

Welcome to the board bokeeliababe,


While I don't think there is a problem with close to your siblings,

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 12:15pm

Has he been this way with his sister for the entire 6 years you have spent together?

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Registered: 11-21-2008
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 12:24pm
Actually things did change.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 1:58pm

Welcome to the board bokeeliababe,


Here's some reading material to consider:


Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis


Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw


Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman (you sound like a Quaility Time person and he's more interested in spending quaility time with his sister instead of you).