Can't Communicate & Therapy's a nogo....
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Can't Communicate & Therapy's a nogo....
| Fri, 11-21-2008 - 6:25pm |
Ok so when
talking does not work b/c you can't agree nor understand eaother ----
and
he won't go to therapy .......
ARE there any other options? What might they be?

I would be leery of someone who would not go to therapy to resolve problems - it could indicate that he is not in it for the long haul.
do you have a friend, family member or clergy person who could help referee a discussion for you?
Picketyfence, how serious is your relationship? Ie; are you married? Kids?
Can you give more information about what's going on?
Picketyfence, you've been trying to understand your husband and get him to work with you on your marriage issues for a long time. Here are some posts from almost two years ago: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlrelationsh/?msg=27518.1. If only one person is willing to work on the marriage, the other person is stuck. It takes two to make complementary changes.
On the other hand, that doesn't mean that you have to live with him in his unreality. You can accept that this is the way he will always be and make noncommittal responses to his complaints, or you can leave for your own mental and emotional health.
Do you have children? How does he behave with them?
Have you gone to counseling yourself?