Broke up verbally abusive boyfriend
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| Mon, 11-24-2008 - 8:58pm |
Hello - I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years two days ago. He was verbally and emotinally abusive to me. I have broken up with him three times before this and went straight back to him after only two weeks. This break up feels different. I don't really feel sad. I haven't really cried. I feel more mad. But I do get scared I will go back to him. He has been calling me everyday leaving messages, text messaging me. I texted him yesterday telling him to leave me alone and that I don't want to be with him, but he still continues. He says needs me and loves me. I feel like calling him and telling him off, but I guess that would break the whole no contact thing. Will someone please tell me the supporting empowering advice I need.
Thanks!

Northkountry
Welcome to the board,
I was also going to suggest changing your phone number. Also don't respond to him at all. No calls, texts, nothing.
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First of all congratulations on leaving something behind that is negative for you. An abusive indidivual often cries and gets upset when their partner leaves - they have no one to abuse now - and then the pattern starts again when things go back as they were.
I suggest that you find a support group for abused women...there are many of them. Get the support and strength from being a part of this group, learning about the situations of others, helping them out and in the process receiving strength and understanding as well. It's hard to do this on your own. Your patterns are deep and you need support and help in breaking them.
All good wishes,
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