Boyfriend wants a break

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Registered: 09-04-2006
Boyfriend wants a break
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Tue, 11-25-2008 - 9:24pm

My boyfriend and I work opposite schedules and live about an hour from each other.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 11-25-2008 - 9:28pm

Welcome to the board j123lang,


Reading material to consider:


When he asks for space (aka, "a break") - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22130.1


Breaks/Breakups and the Attitude Shift.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 8:47am

I think you should end communication with him, as painful & difficult as it will be.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 10:38am

He is playing games with you and with himself. Obviously, he doesn't know what he wants - and he is dangling you on a string and keeping you there, by constantly calling. It's a teasing of a kind.


You decide whether you want to be treated this way? Is it good for you? You can love someone, but if they don't respect you and give you some sense of security and truth about what's going on for them, the relationship can become toxic. ..as this one has.


Respect yourself. Go forward. Tell him if he wants a break to take it and you will also go forward in your life. Don't just be there for him whenever he calls. Focus on building yourself up, being with friends, engaging in positive activities...in a little while when you look back at the relationship you may wonder what you loved so much about it.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 7:13pm
If he doesnt know if he wants you, then he just doesnt want you bad enough to be in a relationship with you.