This really got to me

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2008
This really got to me
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Wed, 11-26-2008 - 8:59am

I had posted about my boyfriend and me a while ago.... so the other night he went with his co-workers bowling and my boyfriend had braught his video camera with him. I looked at it last night to see what he had taped while he was out and this is what i seen... the camera was pointing down other girls tops, more than one and he was zooming in on chick's asses and their tits all night. Im pissed off about it... but is it normal for a guy to do these things when hes in a relationship?

I need some advice or just something because this really got to me and its like he does one thing after another to piss me off.

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Registered: 08-21-2005
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 10:28am
I think its normal for guys to 'look' at other women while in a relationship. I think taking a camera and capturing girls on film is a different story. He could get in big trouble if he gets caught. I would be terribly upset in your situation. I can't imagine what was going through his head to think that was a good idea?!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 10:35am

Each couple has to decide for themselves what is and what is not acceptable in the relationship. In answer to your question, no this is not usual behavior when someone is in a relationship. I believe many women would be upset and find it unacceptable.


The deeper question is - how do you feel about it? Is this behavior you want to live with in your relationship? If he is doing one thing after another to piss you off, why are you with him? Is he trying to get you to break the relationship off? Is he enjoying getting you upset and off balance?


Look at what you really want in a relationship and don't allow yourself to be pulled down by someone else's negative, childish and disrespctful behavior. You must protect your own sense of value and worth.


Best wishes,

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 1:53pm

Here's your previous post so others can catch up on your situation:


I dont know what to do


I'm not sure why you are still with this guy? It takes two to make it work. He's disrespecting you and the women he's video-taping, besides the fact that it's inappropriate.


7 Signs you should Run from your Partner - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlrelationsh&msg=28188.1


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 11-27-2008 - 3:20pm
Are you sure it was your boyfriend who did the taping? Is it possible that one of his mates picked up the camera and used it?