How can a relationship grow and how can two partners feel nourished if they don't spend quality time together doing things they both enjoy? It's impossible. In order to keep the bond between the two of you growing and alive, and to insure that he doesn't look for closeness elsewhere, it's crucial to arrange quality time and to find some things that are meaningful to both of you. And, even if you aren't so interested in his interests, I would suggest joining him in some of them anyway. Find a way to simply enjoy his company. Find a way to talk to each other and to bring life into what sounds like a relationship where the fire is dying.
Relationships take work. People grow and often they grow apart. When this happens, you can't take the closeness for granted. You have to keep that connection alive. It takes time, energy, committment and some compromise. If he's important to you, get working on making things better between you right away.
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"we don't spend time together & we don't have any common interests help please"
I think you figured out what you need to do to bridge any gap - spend time together and explore new things together.
thank you for answering my post you're right about spending time together.
Welcome to the board ivil_carla73,
He's having an emotional affair at the very least, IMO.
Is he willing to go to counseling and have honest conversations about what both of you are unhappy about with your relationship?
I think he put that picture on the phone to screw with your head. It was a mean thing to do.
thank you sugarbaby_gal
Hi again,
Get curious about him again.
thanks Carrie I will! (pay more attention to him)
I will read the books you suggest too, Carla
How can a relationship grow and how can two partners feel nourished if they don't spend quality time together doing things they both enjoy? It's impossible. In order to keep the bond between the two of you growing and alive, and to insure that he doesn't look for closeness elsewhere, it's crucial to arrange quality time and to find some things that are meaningful to both of you. And, even if you aren't so interested in his interests, I would suggest joining him in some of them anyway. Find a way to simply enjoy his company. Find a way to talk to each other and to bring life into what sounds like a relationship where the fire is dying.
Relationships take work. People grow and often they grow apart. When this happens, you can't take the closeness for granted. You have to keep that connection alive. It takes time, energy, committment and some compromise. If he's important to you, get working on making things better between you right away.
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You know what, ivil_carla, you are a total breath of fresh air.
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