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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2008
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Thu, 11-27-2008 - 11:07am

hi i'm looking for some advice

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Thu, 11-27-2008 - 3:08pm

"we don't spend time together & we don't have any common interests help please"


I think you figured out what you need to do to bridge any gap - spend time together and explore new things together.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2008
Thu, 11-27-2008 - 10:23pm

thank you for answering my post you're right about spending time together.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-27-2008 - 10:52pm

Welcome to the board ivil_carla73,


He's having an emotional affair at the very least, IMO.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2008
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 9:13am
hi carrie
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 6:25pm

Is he willing to go to counseling and have honest conversations about what both of you are unhappy about with your relationship?


I think he put that picture on the phone to screw with your head. It was a mean thing to do.


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2008
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 9:12pm

thank you sugarbaby_gal

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 7:19pm

Hi again,


Get curious about him again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2008
Sun, 11-30-2008 - 9:33pm

thanks Carrie I will! (pay more attention to him)


I will read the books you suggest too, Carla

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-01-2008 - 12:53pm

How can a relationship grow and how can two partners feel nourished if they don't spend quality time together doing things they both enjoy? It's impossible. In order to keep the bond between the two of you growing and alive, and to insure that he doesn't look for closeness elsewhere, it's crucial to arrange quality time and to find some things that are meaningful to both of you. And, even if you aren't so interested in his interests, I would suggest joining him in some of them anyway. Find a way to simply enjoy his company. Find a way to talk to each other and to bring life into what sounds like a relationship where the fire is dying.


Relationships take work. People grow and often they grow apart. When this happens, you can't take the closeness for granted. You have to keep that connection alive. It takes time, energy, committment and some compromise. If he's important to you, get working on making things better between you right away.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Mon, 12-01-2008 - 6:04pm

You know what, ivil_carla, you are a total breath of fresh air.

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