You're not stupid, so don't treat yourself like a stupid girl. You know exactly what's going on, don't blindside yourself or let him blindside you. After four and a half years, you found out who he really is - A CHEATER. Thank GOD you found out now and not after a ring on your finger, children together, et cetera.
There's only one choice, only one "right" answer and you know what that is. You have to stand up for yourself and leave. It doesn't matter if he knows you found out, which one of you is wrong here? The cheater, or the one who finally realized she was dating a cheater?
I am so, so sorry for what you are going through, it must feel like an awful punch in the stomach. I do think though that you should realize what your boyfriend's true character is, and don't ignore it.
This isn't the first time you have caught your bf looking to hook up with other women. My guess is this has been going on a lot longer than you are aware and that he has already done a lot more than what you are aware of. I don't think you should wait to see what he does. What does it matter. You know what his intentions are. By continueing to stay with him you are risking getting at STD. I think you need to tell him you know what is going on and end the relationship. If you stay with him, it will only show him that you will tolerate this behavior and that he can basically walk all over you.
He's not just looking.
You're not stupid, so don't treat yourself like a stupid girl. You know exactly what's going on, don't blindside yourself or let him blindside you. After four and a half years, you found out who he really is - A CHEATER. Thank GOD you found out now and not after a ring on your finger, children together, et cetera.
There's only one choice, only one "right" answer and you know what that is. You have to stand up for yourself and leave. It doesn't matter if he knows you found out, which one of you is wrong here? The cheater, or the one who finally realized she was dating a cheater?
I am so, so sorry for what you are going through, it must feel like an awful punch in the stomach. I do think though that you should realize what your boyfriend's true character is, and don't ignore it.
Welcome to the board rootslady77,
This isn't the first time you have caught your bf looking to hook up with other women. My guess is this has been going on a lot longer than you are aware and that he has already done a lot more than what you are aware of. I don't think you should wait to see what he does. What does it matter. You know what his intentions are. By continueing to stay with him you are risking getting at STD. I think you need to tell him you know what is going on and end the relationship. If you stay with him, it will only show him that you will tolerate this behavior and that he can basically walk all over you.
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Welcome to the board rootslady77,
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While it's normal to be in shock, you have to decide if his behavior is a deal breaker for you and do what you know is right for you.
This part: i DONT WANT TO TELL HIM I KNOW CUZ THEN I WONT EVER KNOW IF HE