please someone help

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Registered: 12-01-2008
please someone help
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Wed, 12-03-2008 - 2:07pm

plesase help me.


I have a 15 year relationship with my wife 2 years best friends and 13 intimate. we have 4 wonderful kids

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 3:37pm

Rayno, I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. Hugs to you.

Given that your wife has called a separation for two months, does this mean that she intends to continue with the marriage afterwards? If so, marriage counselling is your way to go.

You said >>we have problems like the rest of the world money arguments name calling <<
For what it's worth, these issues don't happen to all couples. My husband and I have had only minimal disagreements about money and would NEVER call each other names. I don't know who is doing the name calling in your relationship, but it's completely unacceptable.

If she wants to try again, INSIST on counselling.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 5:03pm

Welcome to the board rayno292000,


Do you have ground rules for this separation? Is counseling an option?


Reading material to consider:


Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw


Divorce Busters by Michelle Weiner-Davis


The 10 Second Kiss, Ellen Kreidman


How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together by Sue Ellen Page


His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr


A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman


Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix


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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 12:07pm

Welcome to the board,


I can't really if it can be fixed without knowing really what the problems are.