Can you gain someone's INTEREST back??

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Registered: 01-14-2005
Can you gain someone's INTEREST back??
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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 8:24pm

Hi folks,


OK I just posted yesterday under the title HELP-Committment is holding him back...A lot of you gave great information and basically said that I should either dump him or get REALLY busy and not return very few of his calls.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 9:46pm
Listen, if he's losing interest in you after ten months, that's a gigantic sign that this relationship is not meant to work out. Little tips and tricks can help you win someone over in the beginning when you're still getting to know them, but you're beyond that. Do what you're doing, if he wants to chase you then he will, but you should have faith that you're a great person who is capable and worthy of love WITHOUT having to resort to tricks in order for one particular man to feel for you the way you should be felt for.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 9:47am

I don't know the full details of this situation, but there are many guys who love the chase. When you are involved with others, they are completely interested in you. It's the challenge of winning you that they love, not you. Once they win the person, interest often wanes. There is nothing anyone can do with a person who has this pattern, unless you want to keep playing games for your entire relationship. This kind of person is not interested in a relationship, but in the challenging of capturing someone.


Seven months is a long time. Why not move on, fill your life with good friends and activities you enjoy. Focus on all you have to give, how worthwhile you are, and go out there and find someone who cares for you because you are you. Games aren't relationships, they're games.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 11:20am