So insecure I can barely be alone
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So insecure I can barely be alone
| Sun, 12-07-2008 - 4:36pm |
I am having issues with my husband being very insecure and possessive and is EXTREMELY critical of me.

Wow. What a horrible life you are leading.
I completely second your idea of leaving him. However, I'm concerned that when you do, he may turn into crazy stalker guy. When you leave, be very careful. Perhaps other posters may have some advice on dealing with nutty ex husbands.
Either divorce or get counseling.
Welcome to the board abstract_artist,
Is counseling an option, for you alone to sort through and make a decision?
Thank you for your support. In answer to your question about if he was like this before the marriage, I think he did a really good job at hiding it and "pretending" that he was this easy-going, fun loving guy.....because literally right after we married, this started getting really bad. Once he had me "right where he wanted me" so to speak, he started showing his true colors, I guess.
Keep me in your thoughts!
Yes, indeed, it is emotional abuse. You are with a severely disturbed man who is stalking you emotionally and also has lied to you, vis a vis children and is clearly trying to dominate, possess and dismantle you. If you stay in a situation like this, you could really be in emotional trouble.
You need guidance, support, and clarity now in making healthy choices. Get yourself to a really fine therapist who will be there for you as you work your way out of this situation. It could be tricky on many levels, so you need to do this with the support of people who are trained to help you through it.
Best wishes,
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