How to make her smile??

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Registered: 04-25-2008
How to make her smile??
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Tue, 12-09-2008 - 11:56am

I have a guy friend who has a girl friend and he has upset her over something which was very important to her.He is worried and scared.wants to do something to bring his gf's smile back as she has gone into sad mode.He is beating himself up and believes its him who has made her lose her smile.Any ideas as to what he can do ?

P.S Please dont ask me to get out of them,its their R , etc etc. like i was told earlier.It is my business to help a friend out when i know that they really love one another and a miss-understanding should not break them up.

Thanks.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 1:46pm
I think you need to give more information. What actually happened?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 2:19pm

When a person is sad, sometimes it's up to them to find a way to let the sadness go. If your friend has apologized and told her he loves her (and if he means it), then let him ask her what it is she needs to feel better again. She knows and perhaps she will tell him. Then he can know what to do.


However, perhaps she is sad because of deeper issues in the relationship which need to be worked on. If this is the case, it would be valuable for both of them to see a couple's counsellor and get some professional help on dealing with what it is that causes so much upset.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 2:41pm

Welcome to the board zubin2008,


If it were only so simple that making her smile again would erase what he's said or done. It doesn't work that way.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 6:49pm

Well, obviously they need to discuss this misunderstanding or disagreement.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 7:09pm
I answered on another board but I just wanted to ask; are you sure he's not on a mission to make her smile again just so he can feel less guilty?
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Registered: 04-25-2008
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 7:28am

Thanks to all.

cl-itwinflame, your reply ,as always hits off best!

I am going to see him today and try to guide him in the best possible way.

eggbert, he is feeling guilty but is not on a mission.I guess he believes since he did 'that'( i am not being specific as to what happened) its his responsibility to make it right and i think he is right.he is taking responsibility of his part and the effect it had on his girlfriend.

thanks to all again.the insight is greatly appreciated.