What does take it slow mean here?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2008
What does take it slow mean here?
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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 1:32pm

I would like to ask you to clear up whether "take it slow" equates to "I need space" in this situation - and how should I approach this?

Here is my situation, my boyfriend / fiance moved out two weeks ago after a couple of months of a deteriorating relationship. We didn't fight, we just lost our passion and got too comfortable (though sex was still great though not regular). When he said he was moving out, I, in my female glory blew UP and frankly behaved terribly. I have apologized profusely and he said I really hurt him (believe me I was mean). A week later he says he is still in love with me (his tear melted my heart) and wants to work things out but "take it slow" though he wants us to be exclusive.

Am I wrong to equate "take it slow" with "give me some space?" I'm operating on the idea that I should not initiate any calls or texts and let him work things out, have fun with his friends and let him take the lead. Am I right? Am I wrong? Is he blowing smoke up my rear OR am I just as confused as to how to approach this.

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2008
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 3:06pm

Maybe he wants the two of you to really work on building a good relationship so the both of you are happy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 3:58pm

Given that you blew up and behaved terribly, creates limits as to how quickly he will jump back into things with you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 8:08pm
I dont know what to tell you - to me, if you are reconciled with your fiance...then how do you "take it slow"? Either you are together or you are not and you pick up where you left off. Unless there are extentuating circumstances for the break-
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 5:37pm

Welcome to the board elleviole,


I think in this case 'take it slow' may mean it's going to take some time for him to fully trust you again with his heart if you were as mean as you say you were.