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Holiday advice and issues?
| Wed, 12-10-2008 - 3:22pm |
Hey all, I've been a lurker for a while but have a question I was hoping to get help with.
| Wed, 12-10-2008 - 3:22pm |
Hey all, I've been a lurker for a while but have a question I was hoping to get help with.
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I've not had a heart-to-heart but its hard to do so with him about this issue.
Ciao_gina...that you for listening.
Bluff him. Mind you, he's a professional gambler so he'll spot a bad bluff. You're going to have to mean it. Tell him it's over but think (secretly in your heart) that it's over unless he convinces you he's going to mega-change. Understand that he probably won't mega-change and it's probably really over but allow yourself that tiny little ray of hope that'll give you the courage to do what needs to be done.
Don't say the part about mega-change out loud!!! Say, in no uncertain terms, that it's over. If he asks you why, say that he knows very well why, that you've tried to discuss it with him like a rational adult, and that it's now past the point of discussion, goodbye. Be hard. He's a pro at this. Don't cave. This isn't a two hour fix. It's going to take months to do it right. He's going to have to a) believe you left him and b) decide he doesn't want that. If you give him an out, he'll take it.
Edited 12/11/2008 4:01 pm ET by kimbernee
Welcome to the board ivil_liz2000,
He's stopped courting you and is now courting 'gambling' - he loves it, he's good at it and so far can afford it.
I think you hit the nail on the head.
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