does he care or does he not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-17-2007
does he care or does he not?
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 2:51pm
I have been dating someone off and on for about two years now.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 12-12-2008 - 4:07pm

Welcome to the board darling2217,


When anyone's actions do NOT match their words it is very hard to know what they want or what they mean or what they really feel.


::he only wants to be around when he feels like it.


Is that the kind of relationship you want? Is that ok with you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 12-12-2008 - 7:26pm
I have not been with a guy who asked for a break but if a guy did ask for a break I would assume that would be one step away from a breakup, or..someone who wants to put the brakes on the building closeness and intimacy...which would mean that he is not serious about a relationship with me, or..someone who just flakes out, or..someone who wants to date another woman but wants to keep me waiting in the wings...getting his cake and eating it.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 6:32pm

Welcome to the board,


This sounds like a situation I found myself in a several years ago. To me is sounds like he is just using you. He wants you help (watching his son) and your company when he wants it, however, it doesn't really want to help you when you need it (like helping you move). My suggestion would be the stop making yourself so available to him until he decides what it is he really wants. If you keep things the way they are now, I don't see them saying. Meaning he isn't going to give you any more than he feels he has to.