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| Sun, 12-14-2008 - 10:52am |
I must start by saying that i have never posted before on this site or any other message before so just excuse me if you find my post out of line.But no criticism please.
Few years ago i met a woman but it somehow didnt work out between us.I continued with the my way of life and she hers though we remained on friendly terms -- greeting on bdays, christmas, new year and even each others kids special occasions.i got no romantic feelings from her, i was completely fine with that even though i thought her a bit more than a friend.Slowly it faded away.Fast forward to a couple of years and i get a huge surprise when i saw her with my brother! geezz!
they both are happy together and are not aware of my feelings of wanting her again.i know its not right ,she loves my bro and he loves her. She was happy to see me but still as a complete friend.
The problem : how do i control myself ?? sometime back we all went out together and saw how my bro held her in his arms and kissed her passionately,i couldnt stand it because i wanted to kiss her bad.i know its horrible of me to think this way but how do i turn myself off.
I have declined joining them next weekend.my bro knows that she and i tried,not very seriously, some years ago but remained friends.she told him and he understood it. but he cant see my feelings behind my tough ,dont care ,mask...
My bro has invited her over to our house for Christmas to meet family.What do i do??
I am 34 ,she is 30 and my bro is 39,if that matters.I am divorced and so is my bro.
Please dont through criticism.i already know the feelings of me wanting my bro's gf is horrible .....help! I have images of them together floating in my head all day long and geez ,her and i at night...........what do i do?

Hi guy1001,
I am absolutley the last person who should be remarking about relationships and love. I am clueless. However, your post
Welcome to the board guy1001,
I agree with klaudia02.
There is nothing to criticize you for. The situation sounds difficult and painful.
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