awful siuation

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2008
awful siuation
3
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 11:27am

Him: divorced 12 years. Me: never married. We have a great, fun, sweet relationship. He asked me in the first year if we could buy a house together in the next few years. I said yes, but I'd like us to be married. I've always wanted to be married, and I knew pretty soon that he was it. He was

Avatar for tobermory
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2001
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 12:23pm

Where did you find this therapist -- because she sounds completely incompetent and unable to understand how trust and strong relationships are supposed to work. This guy is completely not worth your time -- he is dishonest and doesn't even seem to have any regrets about it. You have been naive, but you can change this. Believe me, you can do MUCH better than this guy -- it is hard to believe right now, but you can. And even being alone is better than dealing with this nonsense. Sell the house and get out. I promise your life will improve. And get a new therapist, this was is waste of money and time.

Tobermory

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 12:38pm
You need to consult with a lawyer. If this guy is letting money and assets get in the way of being married to you...then let him go because then you are not #1 and you should be under ALL conditions.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 4:47pm

Welcome to the board rosasharnjoad,


You need a different therapist.