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| Fri, 12-19-2008 - 3:41am |
Hi I am Smriti-27 yr old unmarried, introvert lady, working in a school as a librarian in India. I am living with my maternal grandparents and younger sister who is also working as an assistant teacher in the same school. My mother has been expired when I completed my VIII. My father remarried and now have no connection with me and my sister. I have very low self-esteem and low confidence. Since my childhood I had been labeled by the words which devalue me. Everyone till now says that I can't do anything, even my grandparents say as I have been very average in everything. My parents cared for us, and my grandparents too care for us and love us. But they don't understand me and compare me with everyone. My sister was very intelligent, active, I was always given her example. I hate being compared by anyone. My sister was so much shocked by the behaviour of my father and my father's new wife that she is now a patient of depression. Now my grandparents want me to marry as soon as I can. But I want to marry after 1 or 2 years. They are not talking with me as I refused to marry. My current job is satisfying, but the salary is just Rs.5500 and my sister's is 5000. I can't even take an independent house as cost of living in Mumbai is very high. I am trying for the govt job but it's very difficult.I don't want to marry at present and I don't want to be burden on my grandparents. They are not talking to me, I am in a mental stress. What to do. I think every individual should have his or her right to take a decision of one's own. I feel very insecure when someone speaks of marriage. Some astrologers said that my married life will not be happy. Whatever, I don't want to marry at present. Please give me some advice to help me out.

Welcome to the board Smriti,
The culture differences from where you live and were I live are great so I don't know if my advice will be much help.