Just goodbye....

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Registered: 05-05-2008
Just goodbye....
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Sun, 12-21-2008 - 5:06pm

Hi,


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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 12-21-2008 - 7:35pm

I really don't know.

To be honest, stressing about him not saying "I love you" when ending a call sounds extremely needy. However, if he's pulling away, I can understand your insecurity.

Having said that, some of the things you're both getting upset about at present seem to be over-reacting. Like the gift from his dad. I'm sure that when your boyfriend has a child, it will also get spoiled and oohed and aaahed over....and expecting each other to have a coherent phone conversation in the middle of the night is just downright weird/needy on both your parts.

At this point, I'd be putting any plans of moving in together on hold. The two of you barely know each other. You need to know how each other deals with life and make sure it's compatible with your own ideas before moving in. At present, you're just starting to find this stuff out...and it's not what you want to see.

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Registered: 09-30-2008
Sun, 12-21-2008 - 8:54pm

I agree 100% with the first poster. No offense but your relationship sounds overly dramatic with a little too much neediness on both parts. It's only been 2 1/2 months and you two know barely anything about each other. The fact that you discuss living together and that you're having to try and convince him you're not always so whiny shows just how little you two know each other and aren't these the sort of things that should already be known before talking about living together? My opinions on moving in after such a short period of time is always the same, it's not smart. People are so desperate for marriage and kids that they want to rush into a relationship before even getting to know the person.

The reason he doesn't say I love you as much is probably because you two aren't in love, you're in lust. There is a huge difference. I think you've scared him off with how you acted and he's probably nervous he's getting involved with a drama queen.

Sorry if this sounded harsh - it's reality.














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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 12-24-2008 - 10:49pm

Welcome to the board indmblove,


Sorry to hear about your car.