Am I Over Reacting? (long post)
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| Mon, 12-22-2008 - 11:46pm |
Hi everyone. Here's my issue that hopefully you can help me with:
My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now after separating for seven months so we could start recovery programs and get clean and sober and work on ourselves. At first, everything was fine and very loving. Then, I went away to a school in Florida (we're both stationed in Virginia with the Navy) and since I've been back everything is different. We emailed a lot when I was down there and spoke almost every night. I've been trying to work on some jealousy issues I have so when he told me he had decided to go bike riding with his former girlfriend the weekend I left, I dropped it and didn't get upset. On Thanksgiving he was supposed to go to North Carolina to meet my folks but "forgot" he had family coming into town. I was very disappointed and I let him know in a direct manner that I was. After dinner, I decided to visit my friend

Dump this guy -- there is nothing worthwhile in this relationship and the fact that he tells you your feelings are wrong and that all the problems are yours is more evidence that he is not worth the effort. There are better, more substantial men out there who don't mistreat their women.
Tobermory
Rebrie, you're raising a lot of very small issues. On their own, they're hardly worth a second thought, but together perhaps they indicate the two of you are not a great match. The proverbial straw which broke the camel's back and all that.
Is it possible that you've both grown and changed since doing rehab and are now different people? I've not had any experience with rehab, but I can't imagine that one would be the same person after finishing a program.
Just one word on the gift feminine lotion gift though. I think you are over reacting there. With the exception of lotions which are in the brand of your favourite perfume, I see lotions as the gift you give when you don't know what else to buy. Like vouchers and hand towels. Lotions fall into the category of gifts given to aunts and grandmothers and teachers...and flatmates. Every couple of years, I have to throw out all the lotions which I've received and never used.
I appreciate that you disagree and see lotions as 'romantic' and this is OK. But do realise that not everyone sees them in the same light as you. Your guy appears to have wanted to get something with meaning....something he *knew* you wanted. Many women would be very happy with this.
Welcome to the board rebrie1973,
Why are you both seeing your exes?