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How do you stop obsessing?
| Tue, 12-30-2008 - 3:44am |
Married 38 years, DH had EA 13 years ago, swore it'd never happen again, but last year I discovered totally by accident he was pursuing another woman, anyhow.

I am not sure what to say - if I was married to someone who has had EAs I would think that there was something missing in the marriage for him to do that. And then I'd probably want to find out what is missing for him to seek that attention elsewhere.
Welcome to the board myradorn,
Have the two of you considered counseling?
These other iVillage boards might give you additional insight:
Cyber-Cheating & Emotional Affairs
Life After Betrayal
Reading material to consider:
His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
I too would wonder what was missing in the relationship that made him seek attention outside of the relationship.
I agree with counseling to help you find ways of coming together rather than keeping one another at arm's length
I have to say though, I think you're smart to keep tabs on him still :( I hate saying it but after him doing this TWICE I'd be doing the same thing.