what do i do??

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
what do i do??
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Wed, 12-31-2008 - 12:49am
My girlfriend and I have been together for 18 months.I am 22 and she is nineteen.We have talked about marriage many times and both love the idea. In the beginning, she had no baggage whatsoever, but that changed as we traveled back and forth from school. The first six months were great. I moved in, everything stayed the same,Perfect! We came home for thanksgiving last year and things became a little heated when she visited her ex-boyfriend for lunch.I told her my opinion of that and it cooled off. We went back to school everything remained great and then we came back for Christmas. The same thing happened again over the holidays and we returned and it became perfect once more. We had a great 11 months and then we returned home. Once again she visited her ex, I disagreed and it became rocky. We went back to school for about a month and it wasn't the best, but we got along and things were worked out. Once again,we came home and things got really heated. We actually have called time off. Based on my not liking how she saw her ex, and how she said she needed to find herself. We return to school net week. School is 300 miles away,we know no one, and have every class together. We both want to work things out, but now her parents are stepping in and saying no. What do i do? Is there anything I can say to let our fire to continue to burn?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: gilly_55
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 11:16am

Welcome to the board gilly_55,

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: gilly_55
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 3:39pm

Welcome to the board gilly_55,


At 19, I'm sure she really doesn't have an idea of who she really is, especially if she allows her parents to influence

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
In reply to: gilly_55
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 6:48pm
Please don't pressure a 18 year old girl to get married. You too are so young. Why not date for a few years. You will be a much different person in 10 years and if you get married, you are your wife will most likely move in separate directions as you mature.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
In reply to: gilly_55
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 7:44pm
I dont understand why her parents are getting involved?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2008
In reply to: gilly_55
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 2:19pm

Oh, I think I know why the parents stepped in.