sick n tired

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sick n tired
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Fri, 01-02-2009 - 11:40pm

My BF and I have

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Sat, 01-03-2009 - 11:18am
Do you think he would make a good father? Are you absolutely 100% sure you want to have this child?
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 01-03-2009 - 6:25pm

Sexydiamondprincess, a few questions before I can answer.

How long have you been together?

Was the pregnancy planned?

Does he want the baby?

Were the two of you talking long term commitment before you fell pregnant?

Sorry I can't answer your initial question, but these issues could make a huge difference to my answer.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 12:22am

Welcome to the board sexydiamondprincess,


I wonder if the news of becoming a father has made him fearful, feeling he will be missing out on

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Registered: 05-05-2005
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 12:27am
I considered not keeping the baby, but I see it as a blessing from GOD and I refuse to abort a beautiful gift, and I think he will make a good father he is really good with the lil one I already have
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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 12:34am
We dated throughout high school but this time we have been together for a year and a half. We talked about a baby and we talked about the situation before we decided to go unprotected. We werent exactly trying but we werent preventing either. He is actually excited about being a father and he cant wait for the baby to be born, and from the very begining of the relationship we taked about the future, and long term plans. I made it clear that I wasnt looking into getting into short term relationships.
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Registered: 05-05-2005
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 12:38am
I dont mind him being with his friends but I expect him to make time for me and that is the opposite of what he is doing. He says he is ready to be a father, and I wont allow this to continue after this baby is here.
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Registered: 01-04-2009
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 9:56am
You say you won't allow this behavior to continue after the baby is born.Why let it continue now??????
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Registered: 05-05-2005
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 12:31pm
I havent let it continue. I tried talkin about it but nothing changed so I am just walking away if he changes then we will talk about working it out but if not then I have to do what I have to so I can take care of the kids
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Registered: 01-04-2009
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 1:45pm
I wish ending relationships was as easy as starting them......honestly, there are so many women on here (and in the world) that share the same basic question of "when to end it". It just isn't an easy question to answer for anybody. I wonder why all these men don't see/don't care how hard we try to save/stay in the relationship. Makes them all look heartless.