Does he want me back?

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Does he want me back?
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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 10:43pm
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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 11:42pm

Welcome to the board angeleyes_215,


Have you talked to him about the status of your relationship?

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:23am

Thanks for the reassurance that he is comfortable. He hasn't made a move on me, but has never been the romantic enthusiast in the relationship. He does sleep downstairs. He has let me sleep in the room upstairs and has left all of his bedroom furniture including the sleep number bed, for me. He purchased his on bed and a flat screen tv for downstairs. Lately he has been spending more and more time upstairs with me and talking alot. We watch alot of tv but during the programs we talk about them or anything else that comes to mind.


This is the most confusing situation I have ever been in. Also, I have never loved someone as much as I love him. I would do anything for him and he does know that.


I appreciate any advice towards this situation and if you think I am crazy, just say so.


Thanks soo much

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:13am
It could be he is commitment phobic. I hate to ask this and I mean no offense by this, but do you think there's any chance he's decided he's gay and that's why he's tells you your beautiful but has no romantic feelings for you?
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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 4:03pm
He absolutely isn't gay. I think he is commitment phobic. I don't know how I should approach him to ask about the status of our relationship and I am scared that it will ruin what we have now. Which is a good friendship.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 12:20am
Maybe he is one of these guys who is just not capable of really loving a woman. Some people have real issues with intimacy and being able to really give love to others. I have a family member like that.