I know he's bad, but still not over him

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I know he's bad, but still not over him
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Mon, 01-12-2009 - 11:46pm

I know everything is over now but for some reason i'm still thinking about the whole situation, how we started and how it all went wrong in the end.

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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 12:58am

I'm going to be

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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 1:49am
he was into me, but only
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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 1:54am
A month is long enough to get what he wants and move on. At a month, no one really knows another person. It's not about you doing anything wrong, it's about who he is, what he wants and his character or rather lack thereof.







Carrie

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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 3:56pm

You shouldn't have believed him in the first place.

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Wed, 01-14-2009 - 12:26am
Thanks Sheri, u're so right, I'll keep that in mind from now on. I've been alittle better each day. hopefully i'll get over him very soon eventually.
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Wed, 01-14-2009 - 5:19pm

He didn't do it to you, you did it to you. You didn't pay attention to the many, many signs and signals he was giving you, right from the start. Sometimes we only focus on what we want to see or hear and block out the rest. Sometimes we want something to work out so badly that we refuse to see what's under our nose. Right away he was elusive, and it intensified. He let you know, through his actions, that things were off. It has been said that a person lets a partner know in the first 10 minutes how things will unfold. Many of us simply want our fantasies to be fulfilled so badly that we refuse to really pay attention to what a person is doing, not just saying. When he started to curse at you, you should have been out of there immediately. The question really is, what kept you from seeing the truth, why did you stay so long?


Best wishes,

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Registered: 01-02-2009
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 11:42pm
i thought to myself by me staying longer he might realize how good i was to him then eventually would change. but i guess i was wrong......
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Thu, 01-15-2009 - 12:47pm
Lots of women fall in that trap.