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| Thu, 01-15-2009 - 12:14am |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2.5 years. We're both 20. I feel as though I do everything for him, but he doesn't do the same. He makes me feel like I'm not important. We just had a fight. Yesterday I told him about a friend's party, and he said ok to going. Then when I brought it up today, he said he might be able to go. He's part of a team, and today he found out that he had to work on it tomorrow. I understand that it's important, but he wouldn't even leave early for me.
Then when I get mad at him, he gets frustrated. And it's a big cycle. I just don't know how to make him understand that he makes me feel like second choice.

Is the team thing work-related? If so I can see why he wouldn't just leave early for you.
Rather than continue this cycle why don't you find someone who gives you the priority you need? I realize you like this guy, but you're obviously not willing to let go of this and he's obviously not willing to compromise. Of course he gets frustrated when you get mad, he wants you to relax your expectations of him and instead of doing that you respond with anger. If he's not contributing to a relationship that makes you feel needed and wanted then it's time to wipe the slate clean.
My advice to you is to stop doing everything for him and making him a priority. Stop calling him first. Stop making his life comfortable.
Wow, sounds like my ex BF..is his name Brian?
What would be so wrong with him joining you at the party after he completes his team work obligation?
There are times where we as men are unable to default on our work obligations just so that you are happy.
Welcome to the board mere8,
I totally agree with FiveDiamondWife and I hope you can take the advice she's given.