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| Thu, 01-15-2009 - 7:31pm |
I need to clear my head on how to respond when my fiance calls me after he told me last night to give him back the engagement ring, that he was going out of town(to vegas) to re-evaluate our relationship, he said he was not sure but that he didn't want to breakup.
I have been seeing him for 5 years and he is an older man and in the last year had a lot of health problems, I was there for him all the way and really loved him.
I am very disappointed and hurt.
What to do????
I have been seeing him for 5 years and he is an older man and in the last year had a lot of health problems, I was there for him all the way and really loved him.
I am very disappointed and hurt.
What to do????

What made him ask for the engagement ring back? Did something happen or is it just out of the blue?
I would have to know a bit more to offer a suggestion.
He started going to the casino to gamble with a friend, so I guess that's what distance us.
Welcome to the board goddess_bebe007,
Why do you have to respond to anything? Give him the space he wants.
::(he has done this 5 time before)
Oh boy, consider reading the book Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis -
As for the car, do you have family that can help you buy it from him or get another car?
He has told you that he does not appreciate what you do.
Wow! You turned your car in and put the new car in his name. Yikes!
my feelings for him have definitely change, but I need to resolve the issue with the car, I have to look for a job now and NEED to have one.
any advise on how to deal with this situation? I know now that should have never trusted him.
he says he loves me.....
is he just trying to twist the situation and trying to make me feel guilty?
::then he went on mentioning all the material things he gave me and that I didn't do anything for him, as the days went by he apologized for the way he acted.....yesterday it was the first time I returned his call and we talked....he told me that I needed to put more effort in the relationship and do more things for him (he doesn't see all what I did and doesn't seem to remember that I was there for him when he was sick and complaining and in a bad mood).
From where I sit and what's I've seen on these boards - he's still blaming you, manipulating you, getting you to make him feel better, wanting you to step up to the plate.