how do i show him i love him

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how do i show him i love him
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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 1:57pm
Hes been gone 2weeks and says he doesnt know what he wants but that with how things were at home he was unhappy,,,so unhappy that he took off to his nephews house where he has to sleep on the couch, ride a bus to work and hardly see his kids.
Everything happens for a reason........Curses are often blessings in disguise.
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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 2:17pm

Here's your previous post for others to catch up on your situation:


hes unhappy says its my fault and leaves


Have you read Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman?

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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 3:15pm
its better yet....now he texts me saying he does not want to lose what we once had but the things cannot go on the way they have been...??????
Everything happens for a reason........Curses are often blessings in disguise.
Everything happens for a reason........Curses are often blessings in disguise.
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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 4:27pm
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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 1:26pm

If you do love him, show him. Show him the way that means something to him. Sometimes we think we're showing our love, but it doesn't mean anything to the other person. The first step in showing love, is finding out what's important to him, what he needs to feel loved. Then do that. Each person needs something else to feel loved and cared for. It's important to know what and respect that.


Best wishes,

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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 6:14pm

If you do love him, show him. Show him the way that means something to him. Sometimes we think we're showing our love, but it doesn't mean anything to the other person. The first step in showing love, is finding out what's important to him, what he needs to feel loved. Then do that. Each person needs something else to feel loved and cared for. It's important to know what and respect that.


You make a good point Dr. Shoshanna.

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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 9:55pm

Hi hms0983, The book Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman will help with your question.

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 5:36am

My suggestion would be to ask him. If he can't explain, or perhaps doesn't know what he needs, then try different things and see what he responds to. Someone else recommended the Five Love Languages - here's a link which explains more
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html

I suggest that if you can't ask him or he can't clearly explain his needs, you try each of the Languages and gauge his responses.

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 10:42am
How long have you been with him that you don't know what makes him feel happy and loved?
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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 2:19pm

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 3:39pm
You need to find out what he wants in a relationship.