Not really sure what's going on here~

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Registered: 01-02-2009
Not really sure what's going on here~
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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 5:34am

Hi everyone I'm kinda confused here and would like some opinion.


I like ice skating,

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Registered: 04-25-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 6:04am

bluerain,

I would say it was just a casual encounter,nothing more.I met my bf in a similar situation :-) but he didnt have a gf then.As far as his being very open about family ,etc. ,that could be in his personality ( i told my bf my life story within the first 30 mins.. of meeting !lol)

It really is non of your business if he is happy or not with his gf,sincerely.He told you he has one and didnt give you his cell phone number.thats a straight way of telling you BUT you want to read into it.

Stop reading into what he said or didnt say.he is not interested.

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Registered: 09-30-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 11:27am

I agree with the other poster that his relationship/happiness isn't your business and you shouldn't even be questioning it. Sometimes couples have problems and it's never good when someone else comes along and causes trouble.

The fact that he was skating around checking you out and smiling is so tacky. Just back off and don't email him. Why would you? The fact that you are asking about his happiness with his girlfriend shows that you have no problem pursuing him, despite his relationship. Who in their right mind would want to get to know a guy knowing very well he has a girlfriend?














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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 1:57pm
Holy cow, sorry.
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Registered: 01-02-2009
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 2:44am
the reason why i'm curious if he's happy with his gf because if someone is happy in their current relationship they don't go around to try to talk to people do they? or people do that
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 12:47pm
It really doesn't matter whether he is happy or not with his GF because all relationships have good and bad in them. What matters is that until he has broken up with her he is unavailable because he belongs to someone else. And yes people do flirt sometimes just to see if others still find them attractive.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 1:19pm

I think this is trouble. He told you he has a girl friend, so he's really just playing games, taking up your time and stirring up feelings in you that he cannot fulfill. Not only does he have a girlfriend, but he's living with her family. This is not a situation you want to get in the middle of. It doesn't matter how he feels about her, he's not behaving in a way that's respectful to her or to you. He doesn't want you to call, perhaps he wants a secret fantasy relationship. It's unhealthy for you, and I would say when you to to skate, spend your timing skating and forget about him.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 3:02pm

So if he's unhappy it's ok to betray his girlfriend by scoping you out, getting you to contact him, flirting with you, starting something with you? I think not.


Carrie