dont like my inlaws how2tell husband?

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Registered: 01-20-2009
dont like my inlaws how2tell husband?
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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 12:47am
i love my husband with all my heart. my inlaws live over 2 1/2 hrs away from us. my husband misses them i understand that but when ever we go for a vist me and my husband always ends up in a fight. and the last one lasted for over a day.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 2:04pm

Welcome to the board blonde2c,


::i feel like all they care about is what my husband can do for them


What does your husband do for them?


::doesnt call till the day she is suppose to leave and tell us that she wont be there.


You can be proactive here, call her 2 days before to confirm she's coming, then call the day before too.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:18pm

If you were to tell your husband that you don't like the inlaws, what would be the desired outcome for you?

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Registered: 01-07-2009
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 9:29am

My grandfather never really liked kids either, he would stay in his room and watch golf most of the time we were there. That doesn't make him a crappy person that we shouldn't have been around, it was just who he was and no one expected him to change.

Your in-law problems really don't sound so bad from what you've written. If your mother in law never comes by when she says she will, then stop cleaning the house. I'm not sure what you mean by "i feel like all they care about is what my husband can do for them" because you haven't indicated any evidence to support that statement but if you could clarify maybe it would make more sense. Why do you have to end up in fights when you visit them?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 1:53pm
Sorry but in my opinion this doesn't seem big enough to mention.
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Registered: 10-21-2004
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 6:21pm

<< like how his mom will say im coming to your house on a certain date and i make sure the house is extra clean for when she says she is coming. and she doesnt come... doesnt call till the day she is suppose to leave and tell us that she wont be there. >>


Hmmm, I know everyone's perspective is different but ... IMO, this is definitely not a big deal.

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Registered: 01-07-2009
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 7:14pm

"I mean, the result is ... your house is clean. That's a good thing! "

LOL glad someone else pointed this out... I was thinking, hey, if I just cleaned my house I'd be pretty cool with that.