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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 10:40am

Are you as nice to yourself as you are to others?


Why?




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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 8:44pm

Yes, I treat myself very well.

Carolyn Don't Count the Days Make the Days Count! By Sis
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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 12:38am

Oh Ann!


This is a very good outlook. Very healthy, and very balanced!


And what use is it to help others if it will put us in a bad place personally, right?


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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 12:46am

You are very nice on the boards, Ludam.


Maybe if you took a deep breath and quickly asked yourself how you'd reply or react if that person were on the board instead of in front of you? And how you'd treat yourself if you were writing on your board?


So what makes you grumpy? I'll show you my list if you show me yours ;-)


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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 12:56am

I wonder why it is we are sometimes so much harder on ourselves than we are with others?


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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:15am

Hi Rose,


It looks like you have a good balance, between pushing yourself to strive for the best or to extend your limits, but also rewarding yourself. I'm glad that you are nice to both yourself and others!


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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:20am

Some people think that to be nice to others we have to sacrifice ourselves, and that it's very selfish to want to make time for ourselves and our family...


You've got your priorities right, CC, and that the most important thing. And you help others from the heart, and that is a priceless gift that you are giving them.


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Registered: 06-18-2004
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:24am

I am generally nicer to others than myself but working on this issue!

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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:30am

((((((((((Molly))))))))))


But Moll, we think that you are a wonderful person, a very nice friend to have, supportive, loving, caring, knowledgeable, talented, passionate, strong.


I think that when you start bashing yourself, you have to stop yourself and remind yourself to treat yourself with more respect, support and love. It's difficult at first, but at least try.


When was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back for something well done?


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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:34am

Your mother is a very wise woman, Carolyn. I completely agree with her - if we treat ourselves well and with respect, others will follow our lead.


:-)


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Registered: 11-16-2001
In reply to: cl_libelulle
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:47am

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