so tired of being single

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Registered: 05-27-2005
so tired of being single
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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 4:53pm

I'm so tired of being single. It's making me feel down and I don't know what to do about it. My friends don't help in introducing me to anybody. I don't know where or how I'm supposed to meet anybody. I try going to the mall, grocery stores, library, or wherever I can think of. I'm not the type to just start talking to somebody. I haven't tried any groups yet because there aren't many around my area where I could possibly meet someone. I've tried online dating and met a few guys but that's not going anywhere either. I'm so frustrated about all of this. I work for a business that rents items for weddings and that doesn't help much either.
Oh yeah, btw, I'm 31 yrs old in case you're wondering.

Edited 8/6/2005 4:57 pm ET ET by dream_angel2005




Edited 8/6/2005 5:56 pm ET ET by dream_angel2005
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Registered: 08-06-2005
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 2:08am
Hi.
I am new, but I know how you're feeling! I am nearly 31 as well, and haven't had a date since early March. Granted, I did have major surgery at the end of that month, but I've been feeling like shyte all summer. Down-right depressed, in fact, and am taking TWO anti-depressants. There is more to the unhappiness than singledom, and it's probably a good idea that I am not dating.
I too have done the on-line, Lavalife thing. Dated like a maniac last year. Met some nice guys, some jerks, some players, and made a couple of friends too. I've been engaged once before, and called off my wedding engagement three years ago. I think I've got a lot to still learn about myself, as well as what I really & truly want in life! LOL! Sex would be good right about now; I'm getting ... cobwebs. Then again, maybe not: I've gained about 15 lbs, am waiting for my surgical incisions to fade, and for things to be more balanced for myself.
I don't know about yourself, but have others suggested that you join a group of some sort: a sports team, volunteering or something? Bars are definitely not the place to meet good candidates for dating ... but, sometimes for some "fun".
There are probably millions of women like ourselves in the same boat. Then again, there are probably a lot of women who are jealous of us, for our freedom. Hey, I've just booked a solo trip to Club Med (Turks & Caicos) for the end of October. I will definitely be back in shape then, and will definitely have some "Fun". Whoooo-hoooo!
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Registered: 05-09-2004
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 1:40pm
Yes i am in your shoes to some degree. I have been alone for quite some time now. I recently lost my job and health insurace due to pain in upper back. Been out of work since January of this year. I was on short term disability , now its turning into long term disability.I am still going to doctor for back.The ran nerve test on me to see whats going on in there. Get results back next friday.
The problem with me is i don't go to bars, i really don't know where to start looking.I am divorced with 2 grown sons ages 21 and 23 .Thanks so much for any advise. Karen
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 9:48am

Yeah, I'm tired of being single too. I have been single most of my adult life. I didn't start dating until I was 17 (had already graduated from HS) and after that, I didn't date again until I was 24. When I'm out and about, I don't run into people that I would be interested in dating, if someone does speak to me. When I was younger, I used to ask guys out, but I was rejected every time. I asked my friends for help/advice, but they were too stuck on themselves to be of any use or would just give snide/unsupportive remarks. You reap what you sow.

I'm sure that it doesn't help that I look like a teenager. :/ I do find that HS kids won't leave me alone, although when I was in HS, they wouldn't even acknowledge my presence.

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Registered: 07-15-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 2:18pm

I'm there with all of you as well. I'm not as old as you are but i am to the point that i don't know what to do. And its frustrating the hell out of me. I don't really have any single friends and i am new to my area and not finding anything to do to get out there and meet people. And i don't know how to feel ok with feeling the way i do.

Squeak

 Cassie 

     

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Registered: 08-09-2005
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:33am

I completely undertand what you are saying DA2005. I've been on a couple blind dates this summer and both have been total bombs. All I've gotten out of them has been a dent in my car's bumper. On top of it, I don't live near my friends - so that really cuts down on the social life. How many places can you go ALONE??? Know what I mean? I also get a little tired of everyone (mostly at work) telling me how I'm such a nice guy and should have no problem finding a girlfriend. The fact is - yes - I do have trouble finding one.

jeff, 27

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