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friend always brags about sex life
| Sat, 08-06-2005 - 11:59pm |
I have this friend who, it seems to me, will brag about her sex life any chance she gets. She has better luck with boyfriends/dating than me, now and also before we knew each other. I, on the other hand, was a virgin until age 18. One time I was telling her about how when I was in high school I went through an "ugly duckling phase" (I had severe cystic acne) and therefore guys didn't want to look at me, let alone touch me. Her response was, "I was having SEX at that age." Now, I know part of that may have been my own fault for bringing up my past, but aren't you supposed to be able to tell friends things like that? Maybe she isn't even aware of it, but it's like she says stuff like that to rub it in my face that guys want her more than they want me. Although, this is exclusively in our little "social network". The truth is, and I don't mean to sound vain by any means, I'm more physically attractive than her. The reason she attracts more guys than me (or at least appears to) is because she knows all the little rules and standards of the dating game. I don't. There have been times when she'd inform me of some rule, which she would do very vaguely, and in a "duh, everybody should know this, what is wrong with you?" kind of way. I'm thinking she might feel threatened by my looks and, to compensate for her insecurity, tries to make herself appear more mentally superior or something. I've stopped hanging around with her and all those other people, and I'm currently taking what I'd like to call a vacation of self-discovery, meaning I don't really have any friends at this point in my life. I'd rather be by myself than have toxic friendships contaminating my life. I'm still in school, on summer break, school starts back next week and maybe I'll find some people like me, who I can relate to, to hang out with. If I do, great, if I don't, then it's not like it'll be any different from right now anyway. Last year I was in a bad situation and as a result got stuck among some people that I just didn't mesh with. So I think this year will be better. Ugh, I'm rambling on and on...anyway, back to the original topic, I just wanted to put this out there for everyone to read and respond to...it's like I'm curious to see how others view this.

Hi cherub,
>I've stopped hanging around with her and all those other
>people
I know exactly what you mean. You will always come across people like this in your life and sometimes they are impossible to avoid-- like work "colleagues". I often find that I am an unwilling participant in someone else’s personal competition. I am competitive by nature and enjoy *healthy* competition but despise people who use criticism and snide remarks to undermine your self-esteem. Although it's difficult, you shouldn't let people like this get you down.
>I'm currently taking what I'd like to call a vacation of
>self-discovery, meaning I don't really have any friends
>at this point in my life. I'd rather be by myself than
>have toxic friendships contaminating my life.
I have come to accept that I am only compatible with about 1% of the world’s population, everyone else is either boring or annoying. I have been on that journey of self-discovery for quite a while now and although it can sometimes be very lonely it is quite often rewarding so whatever you do -- **KEEP CHASING YOUR DREAMS**.
Take care
In my opinion, anyone who has to brag about something on
"The comment about her having sex at an age where you were the "ugly duckling" again says she was insecure back then (having sex at an age so young) as well."
It's not that young...over half the girls in high school have sex...but yeah, you do have a point LOL. She would also talk continuously about her ex boyfriend, who she dated for about 3 years, when I was first getting to know her. So I guess there's something to be said about that...
The way you wrote it, I assumed she was referring to an age around 15/16 (maybe younger) which I would say is 1) way too young no matter how secure you are and 2) not old enough to make the decision based on what you want, but on what you think will please the guy in most cases.