Am I worrying too much

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Am I worrying too much
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 5:16pm

About a month ago I started seeing someone I dated briefly about 6 years ago. Since then I have been married and divorced (2 years now) and he had a serious relationship. Neither one of us are looking to get married again but want a relationship with someone. We have spent a lot of time together the last month. I really enjoy the time we spend and he seems to also. The last week we have seen each other every day. I sense he is backing off a little today. He hasn't called or texted me today. We have tentative plans for me to make dinner for him. He has a busy week next week and decided to plan a day later in the week.

I have worried myself to death that something is wrong with no basis other that I haven't heard from him to today. I am just being silly and worrying too much. I think its because I really enjoy his company and it has been so hard to find someone I want to spend time with. What can I do to relax and keep from ruining this too soon?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 5:25pm

The best thing you can do is tell yourself that time will tell as to whether this means he's backing off or just needs a little breather after seeing each other every day. Worrying about it isn't going to change the outcome! Also, remind yourself that no matter WHAT happens, you will be ok. You've gone through breakups before, and you've survived.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 5:25pm

It's been ONE DAY.

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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 5:31pm
You are absolutely right. I am obsessing too much today!! Everything was great last night and there is really no reason to think anything is wrong.
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 5:36pm
You are right. There is really not reason to be worried at this point. He has been very attentive and very much a gentleman. We went to a reception last night he really didn't want to go to, but went for me. Then we went to his daughter's house and spent time with her and her friends. Everything was fine.