did i make a mess of this?

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did i make a mess of this?
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 10:57am

so i wrote last week about a guy i met and we exchanged numbers. I was really wondering if he'd call, then he texted me on thursday night...i wrote back. We texted a few times that night and the next afternoon. No plans were made or anything, it was more like, hey i'm going to my friends pool, now stuff like that. I had plans to go to a party sat night and i was pretty sure he'd be there too. So i went out that day and i forgot to bring my phone. I got back at 5pm and saw that he'd called at 2 and left a message. I called back, got his voicemail and left him a message. He didnt call me back. So i go to the party and he's there. He came over to me, we talked. Unfortunately i hadnt had much to eat that day and with all the excitement i think the drinks i had went to my head. I said something to him like, oh you didnt call me back. It wasnt a big deal adn he just said, oh because i knew you were coming here, so i knew i'd just see you (i guess a mutual friend said i'd be going) So i talked to him quite a bit, and played some drinking game (beer pong). I saw some guy i hadnt seen since 7th grade and talked to him as well. I think i was coming off as being flirty with the other guy. My friends left and i stayed. to make a long story short the other guy was teasing me and saying i just stayed because i wanted the guy i like to take me home. It was kind of true...i wanted to leave so i told the guy i like that i was going to take a cab. He said, no i'll drive you, i'm going soon. So he drives me. Then he ended up staying at my place. The next morning he said that i had wanted to leave so we left, then once we had left i guess i made it seem like he had made me leave. He wasnt mad as far as i could see or anything. THen he asked what the other guy was saying to me. I just told him and he said, yeah he thinks i hate him.

So he stayed for a bit, then left at around noon. When he was leaving he just say somethign like, so i'll talk to you later? i just said, yeah it's up to you. I dont know, i just hate the guessing games. So then i made the mistake of asking, so are we going to hang out again? he just said, yeah i'll talk to later. I cant say i was crazy about that answer and really just wished i hadnt been drunk the night before. THen he kissed me goodbye. I guess i felt guilty thinking that i'd been flirting with the other guy, then being a pain about a ride home. I texted him that night saying, hey sorry if i was annoying last night. He wrote back two hours and said, dont worry about it, you werent that bad. Then i wrote back, thanx, i felt like i was kind of obnoxious, i still had fun though. Then i didnt hear back

So i dont know. I am not contacting him again...I think i have let him know that i'm interested. Maybe he thinks i'm an ass from the night before...

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 11:56am
good lord - how old are you?
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 12:08pm
well i dont think that matters really. It'd be nice if i could just get some advice. I've said before that i was drunk and i didnt act the way i would have liked to
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 3:49pm
If he is really interested in getting to know you, he will not allow this one incident to get in the way. Don't call him anymore let him do the work from this point forward. By inviting him to stay over your place you have showed him that you are interested in him. If he uses that night as an excuse as to why he is not going to call you anymore, then you just need to move on and forget about him cause he was obviously not that into you.
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:01pm

The reason why Kristen asked how old you are is because the way dating is at certain ages tends to be different.

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Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:23am
Yeah at this point he doesnt seem that intersted in 'dating.' Which is probably what is keeping me interested...i always seem to go for these guys. Then the guys that Do want to take me out...I'm not interested in them. WHY???
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Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:09pm

Why?

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Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:46pm
well i dont know that i'm looking for a serious committed relationship right now...but i would like to hang out with that guy again.