feeling depressed

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
feeling depressed
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 8:23pm

Hi,

I just need to rant a little bit - people on this board are always so nice. I ended a year-long relationship about six months ago and things haven't really been the same since. I've tried to get back into the dating game, but it seems like I've had nothing but bad dates with guys who say they feel no chemistry. I am talking to several guys online and I have met someone offline, but I am just friends with the last one right now. I'm 31 years old and just feel like nothing good is going to happen with me no matter how hard I try.

Is there something that I can do to make this feeling go away? Thanks.

JEM

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2005
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 8:39pm

yes -you can make yourself happy and not look for someone else to make you feel that way.

When you are happy and feeling great you will naturally attract others. Get into some activities - that you have always wanted to try - if you really want to be around other people (some people are just natural people person and need to be around the enery of other people) then joining some interesting groups or clubs - I don't know where you live but www.craigslist.com is a great place to look for these things.

You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you so be happy - spend alone time - go get your nails done, get a massage, go to a museum - go to the movies by yourself - or go read in the park. You will find that you enjoy yourself so much that you don't truly need other people to make your day, evening intersting so when you are with people it will be not because you need to be with them, but rather that you enjoy there company.

Don't lose faith - it is easy to feel sorry for ourselves - everyone is guilty of this. So you are never alone.

I wish you well. And your other half is out there just remember that. Sometimes you have to meet alot of people that aren't your type to finally recognize the one that is just right.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2005
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 10:28pm

I'm not sure you can force that lonely feeling out completely. But you can try to push it outta there inch by inch. My suggestion: try picking up guys at the grocery store or random places you wouldn't think of. This is usually when love strikes -- and we're usually wearing grungy sweatpants and no makeup. It'll happen for you, just know you've got a whole bunch of women on ivillage who believe in you!

Hanna
http://grapevinesofunderstanding.blogspot.com/