What am I doing wrong??

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What am I doing wrong??
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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:34am

I really don't get it.

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Registered: 08-04-2005
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:43am

Why don't you use a real internet match place like match.com or eharmony?

I don't think I would want some guy who was just on yahoo.... he didn't do much research to find a site that is more specialized...

It doesn't have anything to do with you. And see the movie must love dogs she was on at the 5 sited if not more.

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Registered: 07-31-2005
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:43am

Okay.

Did you choose the most handsome and attractive guys? There would be a lot of competition for them, so they get to pick and choose. Keep in mind, every girl is probably clicking on the same guys that you're choosing.

Maybe you should lower your standards just a little.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:50am

Um..yahoo is a real site.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:53am

There was a regular poster on the online dating board, lg1964, who always used to say that if you're not getting tons of rejections, you're not writing to enough people.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:58am

No, I am most certainly not emailing the most handsome and attractive guys.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 11:02am

I totally understand...I sent out a bunch of icebreakers (I like to test the waters first even though I just subscribed for a month) recently and have had NO responses. It is discouraging, but what helps me is to remember not to take it personally. I'm not their type, for whatever reason. That doesn't mean I'm ugly or whatever...just not their type.

Sheri

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 11:03am

I've actually had much better luck on yahoo personals than on match or eharmony (the latter is REALLY bad, IMO).

Sheri

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 11:07am

Thanks, Stacey.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 11:20am

LOL about the girl saying she would have a lot of dates.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 11:29am

Don't let online dating discourage you or get your hopes down about dating in general. I usually have pretty bad luck with online dating and feeling rejected but I meet very attractive guys in person that are attracted to me with no problem at all so I know it isn't me and I seriously doubt it's you.

I have a theory with online dating, I think for the most part the people on there are too picky (especially guys) because there are SO many people to choose from that instead of trying to get to know someone in the normal old-fashioned sense, these guys (some of whom I've found to be average looking at best) sort of get this sudden ego boost because they are now talking to 5-6 women (and never got that sort of attention before) so they're thinking they are this super hot commodity and they don't want to settle for less than some supermodel looking thing.

It really isn't realistic for most people in "real-life" dating to be juggling that many people so expectations get ridiculously high and there is this feeling of someone better always being around the corner. It's funny, I did Match off and on for three years or so and there were still some guys on there when I first started, it's like, what the heck are you looking for that you haven't found yet?

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