Guy meeting your friends??
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| Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:58pm |
I am just starting to see this guy and he is just getting out of a relationship (I know, I know), I have made it a point to let him initiate the contact and we talk/communicate almost everyday with his effort, we had a great date earlier this week and we both had a lot of fun. He has actually been very honest with me as well and was upfront about not being sure where this could go because of the recent breakup and it's obviously very early on so there shouldn't be strong expectations anyways.
Question, we talked about what both of us were doing this weekend and I mentioned my friend is coming in town from out of state, I am very excited to see her. He mentioned maybe meeting us out at some point and although part of me wants to see him, I almost want to keep him at arm's length until things seem to have some sort of direction especially since he's said things need to be casual right now. Plus, part of me wants to go out and just have a good time with my friend and flirt away with no worries, normally I would want him to meet my friends but since he's indicated wanting a certain level of casualness right now I thought it would be better to hold off.
If this does indeed come up (him definitely wanting to meet me out), what would be a nice way to say I just want a girl's weekend? I'm very interested in him but I don't want the "attachment" of him hanging out with my friends yet, he met some of them the night I met him but they haven't talked any great deal and I haven't met any of his yet. I think it's more just an issue of self-protection to me.
Thoughts?

I think you're on the right track with not including him. If it comes up again, I'd just say something like, "oh, my friend and I haven't seen each other for a while so we really just wanted to keep it to just us girls".
Sheri
Thanks to both of you for advice, seems like the right thing to do would be unavailable to him this weekend. Hopefully he will follow through and ask at least ;-)
As much as it would be cool to see him I don't want a guy to share the small amount of time I have with my friend this weekend that may not stick around. I'm trying to be smart about this one and not get attached either, I'm very attracted to him and we've had a good time but I don't want to be a fool either.
I wouldn't let him infringe on girl's night no matter what.
I'm new to this board, and felt compelled to pop in and offer up my 2 cents.
Sounds like you've got this figured out and I agree will all that's been said here. Introducing a guy to your friends is a significant step in a relationship. IMO it takes about 6-8 weeks of regular dating just to get to know someone enough to even see if there's the potential for a relationship. In your case it sounds like there are some obstacles from the get go with his other relationship issues. So just go slow.
Good luck!
Chele