Ok Girls! Some advice please!

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Registered: 08-10-2005
Ok Girls! Some advice please!
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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 7:20pm

Now I've posted this in some other forums too, so you might have seen this.

So it's like this! I'm a recently single guy who's about ready to get back in the game. There's this girl I've actually had a crush on for years each time I was single she had a boyfriend or husband (Ok I've know her alot of years) and of course when she was single I had the girlfriend or wife. Timing was never right, and now here I am single again, but she's with someone........ but I've heard through the grapevine its a younger guy and in her words "its just for fun". What the hell do I do here? This wouldn't be just another fling either this girl is a keeper and then some. I think I stood a chance years ago but now I'm not too sure. It's frustrating as hell, if she was in a serious relationship I'd let it go, if she was fully single I would've went after her in a heartbeat!.

So any advice here for a love struck gentleman?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 7:23pm

Ask her to lunch to catch up and then feel her out (not up ;-)) during the lunch as to her current relationship status.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 11:12am

How long has she been dating this chap? Are they serious? Do you just see this girl socially or, are you close friends? When is the last time you spoke to her?

--I would just give her a call and try to feel her out like northwest suggested. Perhaps the two of you could have lunch and you can gauge her interest.