Is this strange behavior in a man?
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| Mon, 08-15-2005 - 1:41am |
Im just commenting on the issue is not that Im butting in this person’s life and I just wonder why there are men like this.
I have a 37yrd cousin. He is not married, single, never been married before, no kids and he lives with his mom, he and his mom only in the house, his mom separated from his dad many many years ago. I have known that he has never dated before in his life, never had a girlfriend either and he is not gay. Also he does not hang out or go out with friends like most men do on weekends to have some drinks, etc. He does not have friends either, since he never hangs out or go out. He spend most of his free time (weekends, Saturdays and Sundays) at home either watching TV or surfing the net for hours, he is like a computer fanatic. He does not practice any sport either. The odd thing is that when there is family gatherings in my family, from a time on, he is absent from the gatherings, he prefers to stay home watching TV or surfing the net rather than to go out for a while, enjoy the evening and leave the computer alone for a while too. He gets bored to go out to gatherings, he prefer to stay home, watching TV, burning DVD’s, and surfing the net and because of this obviously he spends his salary only in technological gadgets for his computer, he only helps in paying the phone, house rent and electricity bill in the house, the rest of the house expenses his mom pays it. His mom still cooks for him and serves him the meals. He does not do dishes in the house, neither wash his own clothes, the washing machine does it of course (LOL!) He has a very difficult character.
Some years ago he went to the movies by himself, now he no longer go to the movies at all, he rather stay home burning movies DVD. He does not think of getting married ever.
Do men are like this? Is this behavior odd in a man?

He sounds like he either has a severly reclusive personality or is just plain too lazy to do anything besides sit at home.
>Is this behavior odd in a man?
Yes. But if his mother is a very domineering woman it's understandable.
I have a friend who has an uncle just like your described. He happens to be in his 40's and has never lived anywhere but at his mom's house. He is socially awkward and he is even a little creepy.... She takes care of him and that is all that he knows. He can't do a thing for himself without his mom. So, I guess it is not completely unusual, but it is strange. I guess some men never grow up.
~Nicole
My brother is sort of like this. He's 31 and still lives at home. He did move out for a while though. He does go out a bit also. I know the type though and he's it. No girlfriends, socially awkward, etc. Yes, it is strange, but if it's not hurting anyone and these guys are happy like this, I don't see what's wrong with it. Some people just have different social needs. It's hard to believe someone so outside the norm could enjoy his life, but my brother seems to so I try not to give him crap about it.
It's weird though...do women get like this? I think the closest thing is a "crazy cat lady", but that usually doesn't happen until one is older, right? I knew of one girl who didn't have friends, just spent a lot of time with her family. That's about it. Curious, that is...
Sounds like Social Anxiety to me.
And yes, women can get that way too.
Hello! Everyone!
I would like to say that i was in a similar situation , staying at home everyday, doing nothing as others says...
So it could be a lot of reason, reasons like he does not have friends and reasons like he might need time on his own to figure something out for his life or that he need help? Who knows.....maybe it could be his choice or it could be he is hiding ......either from himself or from the people at large...You know.....people .......so it could be lots of reasons...
So if you find that he needs help, can let him talk to someone, a counsellor to let him run through his options ....to see if he needs help a not or it could be his choice?
So , for things that happened.......there are lots of side to consider before knowing something....right?
One point is that you do not understand, and it is great that you asks.....but if you find the person strange..........as in that someone does not fit into your thinking of what a normal person should be, and you must know , because of different types of people available in this world,,therefore, there is society. if everyone is the same,as in everyone "thinking" is the same, how would you feel? I think this society will lose its colour.
Thank You!
ok. I have to go-Goodnight!
This person is my TWIN! Except I have my own apartment and two kids. Other than that, you’ve just outlined my entire life. There is nothing wrong with him.
Different strokes for different folks.
Tell your cousin to email me at Thainsomniac@yahoo.com
T.Taylor