Life after the first date

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Registered: 01-30-2005
Life after the first date
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 10:00pm
Ok, I need to know what everyone thinks. I have met a good amount of guys the past year or so, and every date( only one! ) there has been something wrong with guy (or the date) and it didnt work out. Except for a few guys I actually dated (2 and one wasnt ready for a commitment and the other was a pathelogical liar), it hasnt worked out. I have been on so many first dates it is crazy, I can count them on more than two hands. Is this normal? I cant stand the first dates, I just want to get to the second and third date! Is there any hope in site?
Heather
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 10:31pm

I think that's probably normal.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 5:25pm

I hear you Heather! I lost count of how many first dates I have had. When it does not go well, the guy keeps calling. If I liked him, he does not call. I know it takes time, but I am tired!! Sure I enjoy going out with the girls, but there are some things that are just better to do with a partner.

Hang in there with me!

~Nicole

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Thu, 08-18-2005 - 5:28pm
I'm with you guys completely. Why is it that the ones that really like you, you don't usually like back but the ones you like never call. It seems to be that way pretty much all the time. I hate the way that works and also it's so true how we become more picky the older we get because our radar is honed into things we don't want. This is why dating when you are older is harder than when you are younger. It's not so much that there aren't people out there because there is the whole internet dating world now which makes it easier and also dating services, singles groups etc etc. It's mainly because we have become so damn picky but we can't help it because when we are older we just don't want to settle because we don't have the time or energy to be with mr or ms almost or not good enough.
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Registered: 01-30-2005
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 8:28pm

It is good to know someone out there is going through what I am! You are definilty right though, the guys I really like don't ever call, and the ones I'm not interested in call me! I can't win! Im so tired of dating I just want to meet someone who I can talk to and go places with and there definilty things that are more fun to do with your partner! Nicole, where are you from?
Heather

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Registered: 08-21-2005
Sun, 08-21-2005 - 9:05am

Hi!

Just wanted to tell you I know how you feel completely!! I have been online dating for almost a year now and I have only made it to the second date a couple of times and I have had lots of first dates. It's very frustrating! And believe me when I tell you I can't count the number of times I have liked a guy who hasn't liked me back and a guy has been into me and I have not been into then.
I really am hating this dating myself these days. :)
All I can say is keep putting yourself out there, and something good is going to happen one of these days (at least that's what I have been told). :)

Good luck!!!

Rosie