Pianoguy is shaking his head back and forth in amazement! Simply because your response is so typical of many women who THINK they want to date, but automatically eliminate anybody with children, have an IQ that's lower than theirs, and even though you didn't play the age card'...PROBABLY HAVE TO FALL WITHIN A CERTAIN AGE PERIMETER?
If all these particulars are going to 'override' the opportunity to meet somebody who might be "MORE MATURE, SLIGHTLY STUPID AND HAVE A FEW CHILDREN BY A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE"---perhaps you should plan on spending a few more weekends.....dateless?
It's great to have standards to follow....but wouldn't you occasionally like to be "wined, dined and spoiled" by a man whose standards might be a little less than what you desire...but (perhaps)....has a HEART a little larger than yours?
Why should she settle for anything less than what she wants? Maybe if less women settled, then more of us would be happy in our relaionships/marriages.
I also don't want someone "slightly stupid" because you can't carry on a conversation with them or someone who has a "few children". I did date someone with a child and I ended up missing the child more than him when we broke up.
In your opionion then the next time a fifty something, unemployed, balding, 300 lb, personal hygine lacking, guy standing in line next to her at 7-11 says "Hey Baby, I'll rock your world" she should squeal with delight and throw herself into his arms and be grateful? I don't think so.
There is NOTHING wrong with having standards. More of us should.
With all due respect, Pianoguy isn't suggesting that SHYONE settle for anybody! Nor should she (or you) accept just any man who comes along and asks for a date!
My point was...the more limitations or restrictions a person sets up for himself (or herself)...fewer options are left. Like many ivillagers, I have "standards" of my own. You are more than welcome to read my profile if you'd like to know what a few of 'em are.
Sorry if I 'rattled your cage' today? My response wasn't intended to make YOU (or anybody else) DEFENSIVE?
I was hoping for a twinkie...a 33 year old Frenchman living in Vancouver (so 3 hours from me) emailed me a few weeks back...so obviously not someone who's a good candidate for a serious r'ship, but he's cute and has that killer accent ;-). We've talked on the phone, and I was considering going up there to meet him (Vancouver is one of the places I cover in my travel business so it wouldn't be totally random for me to go there!), but he hasn't been very responsive so I've decided to drop the idea. I do need even the twinkies to make SOME effort, ya know ;-)?
My apoligies of I seemed a bit defensive. I just become frustrated with friends/family suggeting that I lower my standards. I do not think they seem unsignificantly high....
All I ask is that he 1) have a job 2) makes enough to support himself 3) does not have any addictions to drugs, alcohol, or tobacco 4) is a generally nice guy.
Apparently I am looking for the impossible.
Off the subject. This was supposed to be about twinkies! Hmmmmm.... It would be nice to have someone to pal around with.
>and they can't be ugly or stupid. OH, and >he can't be old or far away.
I am the same. I like women with hourglass figures, no larger than size 8. They must be under the age of 25 and have an IQ above 130. I don't find stupid old fat women very attractive.
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shywon...
Pianoguy is shaking his head back and forth in amazement! Simply because your response is so typical of many women who THINK they want to date, but automatically eliminate anybody with children, have an IQ that's lower than theirs, and even though you didn't play the age card'...PROBABLY HAVE TO FALL WITHIN A CERTAIN AGE PERIMETER?
If all these particulars are going to 'override' the opportunity to meet somebody who might be "MORE MATURE, SLIGHTLY STUPID AND HAVE A FEW CHILDREN BY A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE"---perhaps you should plan on spending a few more weekends.....dateless?
It's great to have standards to follow....but wouldn't you occasionally like to be "wined, dined and spoiled" by a man whose standards might be a little less than what you desire...but (perhaps)....has a HEART a little larger than yours?
Pianoguy
Why should she settle for anything less than what she wants? Maybe if less women settled, then more of us would be happy in our relaionships/marriages.
I also don't want someone "slightly stupid" because you can't carry on a conversation with them or someone who has a "few children". I did date someone with a child and I ended up missing the child more than him when we broke up.
In your opionion then the next time a fifty something, unemployed, balding, 300 lb, personal hygine lacking, guy standing in line next to her at 7-11 says "Hey Baby, I'll rock your world" she should squeal with delight and throw herself into his arms and be grateful? I don't think so.
There is NOTHING wrong with having standards. More of us should.
nad215...
With all due respect, Pianoguy isn't suggesting that SHYONE settle for anybody! Nor should she (or you) accept just any man who comes along and asks for a date!
My point was...the more limitations or restrictions a person sets up for himself (or herself)...fewer options are left. Like many ivillagers, I have "standards" of my own. You are more than welcome to read my profile if you'd like to know what a few of 'em are.
Sorry if I 'rattled your cage' today? My response wasn't intended to make YOU (or anybody else) DEFENSIVE?
Pianoguy
I was hoping for a twinkie...a 33 year old Frenchman living in Vancouver (so 3 hours from me) emailed me a few weeks back...so obviously not someone who's a good candidate for a serious r'ship, but he's cute and has that killer accent ;-). We've talked on the phone, and I was considering going up there to meet him (Vancouver is one of the places I cover in my travel business so it wouldn't be totally random for me to go there!), but he hasn't been very responsive so I've decided to drop the idea. I do need even the twinkies to make SOME effort, ya know ;-)?
Oh well.
Sheri
My apoligies of I seemed a bit defensive. I just become frustrated with friends/family suggeting that I lower my standards. I do not think they seem unsignificantly high....
All I ask is that he 1) have a job 2) makes enough to support himself 3) does not have any addictions to drugs, alcohol, or tobacco 4) is a generally nice guy.
Apparently I am looking for the impossible.
Off the subject. This was supposed to be about twinkies! Hmmmmm.... It would be nice to have someone to pal around with.
~Nicole
Nicole...
Pianoguy knows there are lots of men out there who just want "a friendship" with a woman and NOTHING MORE!
Unfortunately, most relationships (BUT NOT ALL) often intensify or just 'peter out'----which usually results in a breakup.
I sincerely hope you find the man you're looking for?
Based on what you've asked for, "I know he's out there somewhere!" (I'm paraphrasing the pop tune by The Moody Blues).
Pianoguy
Actually, I did play the "age card."
OH, and he can't be old or far away.
And yes, he does have to be within a certain age range.
33!
>and they can't be ugly or stupid. OH, and
>he can't be old or far away.
I am the same. I like women with hourglass figures, no larger than size 8. They must be under the age of 25 and have an IQ above 130. I don't find stupid old fat women very attractive.
That's what most men want these days....and most of them are no where near the quality it takes to snag a girl like that.
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