Shallow or concerend about attraction?

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Shallow or concerend about attraction?
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 2:07pm
What is the difference between being shallow versus being concerned about there not being any physical attraction? Is there a difference? Is physical attraction not important to some?
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 4:19pm

Being shallow is when ALL you care about is looks. And you have a grocery list of items: hair, eyes, weight, height, etc. And if someone doesn't correspond to that, you won't even give them the time of day. Or you want someone "hot" that people will notice - like a trophy wife.

Being physically attracted is NOT that at all. It depends on chemistry and how the person makes you feel. Of course you have to find her/him beautiful - but that definition is not so restrictive. You can think someone is gorgeous even though they are not magazine cover material, because there is just SOMETHING about them that draws you to them like a magnet.

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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 6:08pm

I would agree with the other poster. If looks are ALL you care about, that's shallow.

But physical attraction is necessary, so in order to have a romantic connection with someone, you have to like their looks AND their personality. Personality/compatability alone won't do it...that's the difference between a friend of the opposite gender and a romantic partner...the physical attraction.

Sheri

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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 7:47pm

I think shallow is when you exclude all other traits other than those physically apparent OR financial.