Weight concern
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| Fri, 08-19-2005 - 3:48pm |
so... I met a guy on Yahoo this week and he is already suggested we meet (that was his solution to me questioning whether I'd hear from him via email this weekend). Problem is... I JUST joined the gym this week and am nowhere close to where I want my body to be for a meet up. The OBVIOUS answer is... meet him - if he doesn't like you and your body for the way it is - he isn't worth keeping. Yeah yeah... okay! But... I don't WANT to look like this - I KNOW I can look better and I don't want to lose a good guy (if that's what he is) because I let myself go this last year! :(
I have a good 20 pounds I want to lose and I know I can't do that in a week or however long I can hold off a meeting but... I don't feel confident in my skin and yet I REALLY want to meet him! :(
thoughts/comments!?

ummm yeah - he's doing a 10 mile run tomorrow morning - I don't imagine he has too much extra weight to shave off!
Well... one of my pictures is almost a year old but all you can see is my head and I'd say I'm about the same in the face as I was then... I don't think there is a DRASTIC difference from my pictures but... I DO need to tone and shape up!
I think I agree - I should create a bond before meeting him! ;) Good call!
I haven't read the other comments yet, but if you're not ready to meet people you should NOT have a profile online -- at the online message boards people are constantly complaining about people who have their profile up but seem to be stuck to email and never actually want to meet in real life. You won't lose 20 pounds overnight, it'll take months, do you really expect to string someone along that long?
Said that, I agree 100% with your first comment, that if he doesn't like you, then he wasn't worth it. Give it a chance. I assume he's seen your picture already? It doesn't mean you still can't lose those 20 pounds, but no reason to stop your life until you do so! Best of luck!
Well, I completely disagree with the suggestion of "creating a bond" with him before you meet.
>Well, I completely disagree with the suggestion of
>"creating a bond" with him before you meet. It's a
>real good way to set yourself up for disappointment
I also agree. Plus, if he/you are anything like me, a "bond" won't compensate for a lack of physical attraction--and I am NOT suggesting that weight is the only (or even a) factor. I think before meeting him you should mention that you are training at the gym because you want to get your body in "better" shape. See how he responds.
Edited to add: DON'T whatever you do mention your weight as if you expect or are concerned about rejection. Say it in a positive way like you said it to us. You are doing it because YOU want to be happy with yourself.
Edited 8/20/2005 3:48 am ET ET by hal_9000