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| Mon, 08-22-2005 - 2:08am |
i am in need of some advice about this guy i've been seeing.
i met this guy and we've been talking for about 2yrs now and at the time we met i didn't know he had a girlfriend. but we hung out together all the and talked on the phone alot so i would have never thought he would have time for someone else. later on in our relationship, if u can call that, i found out about her and the fact that he has been dating her for 3yrs.
he and this girl are constantly breaking up and getting back together. she breaks up with him because she claims that he is too bad for her. he drinks, smokes, and parties with his friends alot and she is really religious, therefore she frowns upon that kind of behavior.
when we together he treats my like a man should treat a woman, but i know he has another girl that he more than likely treats the same way. my friends keep telling me to move on and forget about him but i can't seem to do so. just when i think i'm making those steps in the right direction it's like he pulls me back in. the same friends that tell me to move on let me know every chance they get that when they see them out together he seems 'stand-offish' with her, that they look more like friends that boyfriend/girlfiend. they are currently broken up but they are still close, so close that he recently escorted her to a special event.
so i guess my question is why do they keep getting back together if he has made now changes to stop drinking and etc.? am i just wasting my time with this guy or should i continue seeing him? please just tell me what you think good or bad.

Block his emails, block his phone number, and get out of this relationship.
>why do they keep getting back together if he has made now changes to stop drinking and etc.?
Because his intention might be to marry this girl one of these days and he refuses to let her go. He might see you as a toy. One that he can play with and do things that the one he really wants to end up with in the future is unwilling to do. Let him go.
Walk away and don't look back. Remember, it takes TWO to get back together and just one to break-up. There is obviously something he isn't willing to let go of if he gets back toegther with her regardless of who broke it off.
I try to steer clear of anyone in and on/off relationship, I recently went out with a guy a few times, I liked him a lot but he said his ex and he were on and off (when we went out they were currently "off" according to him) but regardless, he was obviously going back and forth for some reason and in my case, he said it was basically over but they still saw each other and I wondered why he was willing to have it go back "on" again. Either he has no balls and can't be alone so he stays in an unhappy relationship or he is hanging on to some shred of a relationship, either way it's not somewhere I wanted to be and neither should you.
>Because his intention might be to marry this girl one of these days and he refuses to let her go. He might see you as a toy. One that he can play with and do things that the one he really wants to end up with in the future is unwilling to do. Let him go.<
thanks bella, i never really thought of it like that.