Do i have leverage
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| Mon, 08-22-2005 - 1:53pm |
i met a guy over the 4th of july weekend. he calls me all the time, we go out on dates (picnics, ice cream, icees etc)which has allowed us to get to know each other better. last saturday, he wanted to out - i told him that i would be attending a funeral w/my ex and that i would give him a call later. i called him later and he told me that he was on the other line w/an old "friend" and he would give me a call back. well needless to say, when he did call back i was unavailable. i did however call him back to tell him that i had made it home, and that i was pretty tired and really didn't feel up to going out. slightly irritated he tried to persuade me to see him but i wouldn't budge and we ended the conversation w/we'll see what happens tomorrow. we talked over the course of the week, but didn't make plans to see each other.
FAST FORWARD: friday night, i called him to see what he was into, no answer, left msg, no call back. ordinarily this wouldn't have bothered me until he called me first thing on sat morning. right there i had a gut feeling that something wasn't right and that whatever he was doing on friday night, it couldn't have been good. so, i didn't answer any of his call this weekend. he called me this morning and i told him that i would call him back-when i did, he told me that he was late for an appt and that he was trying to fix his hair. in response i told him that his hair looked really nice (jokingly), he paused for a minute, repeated back what i said and then said..."i was out with an old friend on friday night." before i lost my cool i told him that i would call him back but i haven't as of yet and now i'm wondering should i pursue this relationship. i mean we touched briefly on the topic of exclusivity but nothing definite. however, why the gultiness on his part? i'm not sure if i should be happy that he confessed w/out any pressure on my part or should i be angry? we haven't had sex yet, so that's not an issue. although, we've talked about it and he's expressed to me on numerous occasions that he wants too but respects my decision to wait until i'm ready. how would you proceed?

What do you mean by "do I have leverage?"
Anyhow, the first part of your story just sounds like a matter of bad timing.