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| Tue, 08-23-2005 - 5:02pm |
I'm a guy who has been married for 7 months. My wife has a guy she has been great friends with since she her first year of college when she was 18. He lives 2500 miles away and the friendship never bothered me. (I recently found out after we were married that they slept together on several occassions when they were in college and once after college but even this was a couple years before we dated)) He often sends my wife cd's,and occassionally calls and semds emails. Well about 10 days before we got married, this guy was in town so we met up with him and a bunch of his friends. My seemed to glow in his presence and to be infatiuated by him, which kind of bothered me but I let it go. Anyway, I am looking through my wife's Yahoo email account for her frequent flier number the other day (now about 7 months after we were married) and I see an email she sent this guy after he was in town approx 7 months ago and only 10 days before we got married, and en exerpt reads: "it was so so so good to see you this weekend. I hope
your flight home was mild. It was so good to see you. you are such a special person to me. I cherish the time we have spent together both clothed and naked. Seeing you brought back some good memories. we have quite a few from 11-plus years."
This really disturbed me. I told my wife I think her relationship with this guy is not appropriate since she blatantly says "I love you" to him when they end phone conevrsations when I am around, etc. She told me she regrets sleeping with him when I confronted her her this weekend............ (contrary to what her email said 7 months ago) I have not told her I saw the email. I think she is still into this guy. I am realy distraught here. Any women with advice would be appreciated. I am hoping it was just the pre-wedding jitters or something........... Thanks!

I am sorry to hear that you are gong through this. iVillage has some boards that deal specifically with affairs and being a betrayed spouse. You might get better advice there than here.
Good luck.
As I read the first part of your post, a guy I dated in college came to mind.