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| Sun, 08-28-2005 - 11:32pm |
Why do people act like i am strange for being single?I havent been with anyone since a bad break up in Feb(Valentines day no less)So what?my one friend asked don`t i miss sex,not having a boyfriend..figures he is a GUY..that would be the only important thing..sure sex is great,not with some JERk though who doesnt cae if you drop dead.people at my job ask if i met anyone else yet or am i seeing anyone?why was i supposed to?sorry,i don`t go home with guys at bars or ask men for their cell #s out of random.I havent gotten around to asking my friends if they can set me up..we are almost 30 so alot are married,making women miserable and getting divorced.Sure i am attracted to men,cant change that...and there is a guy friend at my job i am attracted to .he flirts with me..but so what?It dont mean he will be a great boyfriend or that he wants me..he is nice ot me,but i am sure it would just be sex he would want,i can be wrong..but i just talk to himand treat him like a friend and vice versa..i like it that way.So i have no problems being single and not inot having flings..so sue me...if that makes me a loser,so be it.Anyone else going through the same crap?

chesire727...
It's just Pianoguy's "best guess"....but if your friends and family members are used to seeing you with a b/f....they're probably assuming THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG? Many of PG's friends are fond of "playing matchmaker"---and have tried to 'set him up with someone' at one time or another? The ladies have been very polite...but not exactly what PG was looking for!
Anyway...here's the most important thing:
Only YOU are going to know when YOU'RE READY to date somebody else!
The process might take a few weeks, a few months, (or God forbid) a FEW YEARS? However, if you have the 'mindset' that the only thing a man wants from you is S-E-X...you'll pretty much dismiss any attention we give you....even if our 'terms of endearment' are basically harmless?
I can certainly understand why you're apprehensive about trying another relationship with ANYBODY! Unfortunately, the more a man or a woman decides to get "seriously involved" with the other, having S-E-X (together) is eventually going enter into the picture?
Having said this, I think that many of us can (and do) have GREAT FRIENDSHIPS with others without 'winding up in bed together!' However, if there's a lot of LOVE & EMOTION connected with ANY friendship..."one thing often leads to another!"
Pianoguy