Dating and Age Difference

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Registered: 04-24-2005
Dating and Age Difference
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Mon, 08-29-2005 - 12:11am

I have been single for the last four years and have dated occasionally. I have three children and am soon going to be 28. Recentally I met a guy and we seemed to have hit it off right away. We talked for a few hours and it seems we have many things in common, many of the same values. Towards the end of our conversation I had asked how old he was and he is only 22.

Here is where my question comes in.....he asked me to call him so we can get together again. I want to, but the age difference has me a little nervous. I mean I have three kids....would I be in the wrong to pursue this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
Mon, 08-29-2005 - 11:49am
well..men OUR age (i am almost 30)are still immature..imagine a 22 yr old.....and nothing personal,but he could be thinking..older woman,who has 3 kids...you know what he is thinking..sex...get to know him first,but maybe an older guy would be better..of course if this guy is very nice to you,then it is possible..but does he really like you,or does he just want to get laid?Not being harsh,I am just giving you honest advice..perhaps be friends right now.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2004
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:42pm

Chesire~ I look at age as just a number in MOST cases, but will admit there are some where the age makes all of the difference in the world. Have you discussed the fact of you having children with him? What does he say? How about your children, do they like him or have they ever spent any time around him? Try and figure out what he wants, he may only be twenty-two, but he might be ready to settle down with a family. Stranger things have happened. At least give him a chance. I'm sure it won't take you long to figure him out.

Best of luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2005
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:23pm

I really gave all of this some serious thought. I have been talking with him on the phone but have not made any plans to meet up again. It seems that after some more conversation, even though we have much in common he is looking for a casual thing. I made it clear I am not up for casual, I need something more. He still seems interested in getting to know me more, but I am skeptical.

Thanks for the advise, any advise on where to actually look for potential dates? We all know the bar is only for hooks ups...work is not an option for me, and all my friends are married with married friends.

Thanks again!