The crazy female mind

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The crazy female mind
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Mon, 08-29-2005 - 11:33pm

Fess up...


What sorts of crazy thoughts have you had when encountering a dating situation?

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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 9:53am

I just noticed the image with your name - CL of the month? Way to go!

I am trying to think of some kind of silly thing like you are looking for. I don't have any similar stories BUT I am superstitious (Irish Catholics tend to be) so I do have some weird, shall we say, rituals. For one - I always wear unsexy white underwear on a first date. Why, you ask? Becuase - I swear to all that is holy that this is true - every time that I have gone out to buy sexy lingerie while dating someone, the relationship has broken up soon after and the guy never got to see the pretty underthings. Now I just assume that I am buying them for the next man.

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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 5:14pm

Couldn't come up with a funny story but I have a foolish one!

I found a valid address in London and posted a personal ad there last year. I decided I wanted to see what it was like to correspond with an Englishmen ; ) A very nice chap ended up contacting me and we struck up a virtual romance of sorts. I saw pictures, spoke to him almost daily and quite honestly, thought I was in heaven. Within months, he was here in Nashville, TN.

The thought of what was happening and how it had all happened was so overwhelmingly romantic that I lost all rationale. In short, his entire visit was a complete disaster from beginning to end. He probably curses me to this day and I wouldn't blame him!




Edited 8/30/2005 5:39 pm ET by bbw_26
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 10:40am

When I was 19, I had a huge, all-out, head-over-heels-infatuated crush on a guy who was 25. At the time, I thought he was way too old for me, but I still had the biggest thing for him. He liked me, too - I still remember the look of disappointment on his face when I told him I was 19. Man, oh man, I really thought I was going to marry this guy, that's how crazy-infatuated I was.

We started talking on the phone a lot, but he never asked me out, and eventually the phone calls got few and far between. I made all sorts of excuses - he was busy with school and work (which he was, but now in the world of "He's Just Not That Into You," I realize that he would have made time for me had he really wanted to), he was tired, he was sick. I still thought we'd be together someday...and I even believed if things didn't happen at that time, we'd be together "in the future." Good Lord!!! Definitely one of those "I wish that I knew what I know now when I was younger" (Rod Stewart song) moments.

I remember how heartbroken I was the day a girl I knew who he was also friends with pulled the rug out from under me. She knew how much I liked him, and one night, he called her to vent about how he didn't want to hurt my feelings, and he didn't how to tell me, but he wasn't interested in me, that I was too young for him, and too immature, and he wished I would stop calling him. I'll never forget how hurt I was! I thought I was dying. I cried and cried and cried.

And then I saw him one day and turned my back on him, completely ignored his smile and "Hello." (Apparently, he didn't know his friend had ratted him out). Eventually, though, I "grew up" and was friendly to him when I'd randomly run into him here or there.

Wow, was I a foolish, silly girl back then! My coworkers would offer to help try and set me up with all sorts of cute guys, but I always said, "No, I want to wait for J." STUPID!!! I think now of some of the guys I could have gone out with had I not been so wrapped up in La-La Land and think, "DAMN!" LOL

Funny thing is, for a few years after this incident, I always managed to run into people who were friends of his, and they would always, without fail, tell me he talked about me often. Stuff like, "I hear Stacey's doing really good..."

I must confess - last year, when I got the internet at home for the first time, I looked up his AOL screen name out of curiosity (I'd never used AOL or the internet when I knew him, but my friends had told me his screen name, and I still remembered it). I think it said he was married.

Gosh, I think back to those days and realize I've come a LONG way. I thought my life was over back then on that horrible day when the girl told me he said those things about me, and looking back at everything that's happened since then, it amazes me.

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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:10pm

Thanks, Jules! I was surprised, but I'll take it!


The exact same thing happens to me!!

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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:12pm

So when did you tell him you weren't from London??

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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:21pm

Oh, can I relate...over and over again!

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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:34pm
Every now and then when I don't hear from a guy I will actually trick myself into thinking he is busy with work, or became held up in something. Ha ha, and come to find out he was at a bar with his friends, out on a town, fell asleep, ect....I just can't help myself sometimes LOL
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 8:00pm

Oh, I just love the "I fell asleep" excuse! (Can you detect the sarcasm dripping from that statement?)

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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 9:08am

LOL I also forgot to mention, at that time, I'd never had a boyfriend or even a DATE. So by that time, I was feeling pretty rotten about myself, wondering why every time I'd even come close to getting a boyfriend, it wouldn't happen. I used to think there must have been something wrong with me - even girls who were less attractive than me and who had not as good of a personality as I did were getting boyfriends.

Everyone used to tell me, "Your time will come." I used to say, "Hah!" I remember reading an article in Cosmo about how the average woman kisses such-and-such a many men in her life, and I remember thinking, "HAH! I'll be lucky if I ever kiss ONE!"

Now, fast forward to age 27, and I've had a few boyfriends and kissed numerous men. I guess the ladies who said my time would come were right. LOL

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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 11:08am
Oh, I included the fact that I was an American living in America within the body of the profile. Yahoo Personals wouldn't let me post an ad w/o a valid UK address. My intent was never to mislead anyone about the distance. Plus, I was looking for more of a pen-pal really or, was I ; )

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